NOW, MOVING FORWARD

NOW, MOVING FORWARD

As we all want to push beyond Covid-19 and its effects, we also have the opportunity to be mindful of our emotional growth for the future, according to our insightful Resonance Repatterning expert, Mary Schneider.

Post Covid-19, take a deep breath. What a relief. I recently spent time on the East Coast and I observed many people there were of the same mindset. Covid has taken a hiatus. So, we might as well make hay while the sun shines and get out and dance like nobody is watching. Despite the colloquialisms, evidence suggests this is the thing to do now.

 

In his New York Times article, You’ve Done Self Care. You’ve Languished. Now Try This, Brad Stulberg suggests we have been in a state of languishing and that it is now time to move on. The solution he advises? Take action–whether we want to act or not. Stulberg cites another New York Times article by Adam Grant, a Wharton organizational psychologist. In his article, There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing, Grant defines our all too familiar pandemic mindset. Grant asserts, “Not depressed” doesn’t mean you’re not struggling. “Not burned out” doesn’t mean you’re fired up. By acknowledging many could feel languished, we can start giving voice to quiet despair and lighting a path out of the void.”

 

Action may very well be the solution. The Fire Chakra (solar plexus) is about action in the Ayurvedic Chakra System. Each chakra has a corresponding emotion, and fire represents anger and resentment. Anger is the fire; resentment is the smoke underneath. Make sense? Any action, even a little, is highly recommended to heal this anger and resentment. After all, depression can be anger without enthusiasm.

 

Similarly, in the Chinese Five Element Acupuncture System, action again is the antidote to anger and resentment. The Wood Element is related to the achievement of life goals and growth. It is the Element of Spring and consists of the liver and gall bladder Meridians. Simply put, the liver meridian is associated with anger, the gall bladder with resentment. Liver; livid–it’s not an accident. When these meridians are in balance, some people can enthusiastically move forward in life to realize their dreams and goals in all areas.

 

Judgment is not the issue here. Feeling anger or resentment is not bad or wrong. It is just what it is. Human beings generally have good reason to be angry. Anger gets things done, and it, too, can be a great motivator. We would not have any human rights movements in this country without it. Anger can be very potent, but when anger devolves into a deep depression, it can stop us.

 

One helpful addition to action is acceptance. Acceptance is even more potent than anger. Often, in difficult situations, I find myself thinking this should not be happening. Yet acceptance gradually emerges and almost any upset eventually dissipates. I recognize this can be challenging, even tough, or impossible in some circumstances.

 

Our prayers and compassion go out to anyone who lost a loved one in the pandemic or is suffering as long-haulers. My wish for us all is to reach a place of acceptance and move on with our lives in whatever form manifests. Get your rest, enjoy the time available to do that, and then dive back into whatever you wish to do moving forward.

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INTUITION INSIGHT

INTUITION INSIGHT

Following your intuition is always a smart idea, yet the path to getting to that can often be circuitous. Our Austin-based Resonance Repatterning expert, Mary Schneider, offers guidance to seeking more internal intuition as the year progresses and you fulfill your intentions.  

THAT INNER VOICE

I recall asking for advice when I was young, and people often responded with, just be yourself. Frustration was the only thing I learned from that. It’s great advice if you know who you are. Yet, I didn’t. Decades would pass before knowing myself morphed into trusting myself. It would be decades more before I heard my own inner voice…my intuition.

 

How did that happen? It occurred pretty much the same way it happened for others I knew. Trusting ourselves and our inner voice can be a by-product of maturity. Eventually, we grow up. But, there are many other ways, such as making the same mistake again and again and finally learning from it. Or, I made big errors in judgment before listening to my inner voice that suggested I could use some help. That was followed by decades of expensive, albeit valuable, therapy.

 

A brilliant analyst I knew had an interesting element in her therapy. Clients were never allowed to say, I don’t know. To jump-start intuition, the client was encouraged to reach into their psyche to come up with an answer. Intuition is a muscle just like any other. It, too, can be strengthened. We all have it, but it will atrophy if not ever used. In her article 18 Ways to Develop & Strengthen Your Intuition, Dr. Lissa Rankin writes in Mind Body Green, “We are all equipped with an intuition that is potent, trustworthy, and impeccably attuned to our true path. Whether you use it or not is up to you.”

 

CONSULT THE HEART

Today, numerous books are available to teach children how to access their inner knowing. These books teach children how to validate their intuitive abilities instead of suppressing them. Accessing one’s intuition is an extraordinary skill to cultivate at such an early stage of development. When a child reaches late adolescence, the utilization of their intuition will be second nature. In addition, scores of children already meditate. Meditation is a great way to acquire our sixth sense. Meditation begets silence, and intuition rises out of the silence. They both originate in the same place within our spiritual core. Decision-making is a natural part of life but is often problematic in many adults without this solid foundation. Albert Einstein said, “The intuitive is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” Trusting ourselves and accessing intuition has always been associated with the heart. The center of high intelligence and compassion, the heart, is the seat of our inner knowing and the hub of our spiritual core. Learning to consult the heart and listening to its message allows us entrée into deep inner knowing. What’s fascinating about this process is the more we follow our heart, the clearer the message and the faster the delivery. If we stop for a while, the clarity and delivery may get rusty.

 

Ruth Umoh on CNBC.com writes, “While (Steve) Jobs was born a little under two months before Albert Einstein’s death, both the visionary co-founder of Apple and the most influential physicist of the 20th century agree that one trait was at the heart of their success: intuition.” Many momentous, life-changing decisions in our history were the result of someone’s intuition. And, undoubtedly, many a war was won or lost with little to go on other than internal intuition.

 

Learning to trust our intuition is inextricably woven into our core values. If we stay true to our core value system, generally, it is because our intuition drives us in that direction, and we choose to listen. When we choose to override this innate integrity, it can be uncomfortable at best. Intuition is the mechanism designed to aid in self-knowledge. And you know what the Greeks said about thatan unexamined life is not worth living.

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SILVER LININGS

SILVER LININGS

We all realize that with every challenge, there is potential, especially as we reflect on this year’s obstacles and possibilities, according to our Austin-based Resonance Repatterning expert, Mary Schneider.

YEAR ‘ROUND OPPORTUNITIES

The holidays are always such a wonderful time of year. Within that joy, there is much to contemplate in 2021 on so many levels. Consider the changes encountered since this past January. Of course, we have new leadership in Washington, with its itinerant challenges,  some already serious. Leading the way is the pandemic. The vaccine and variants will remain the top story for a while. Yet, it is a tiny fraction of the whole. It is also stressful, and that’s without factoring in our own personal dynamic thus far. Hopes can be dashed regularly. Things seem to be settling down only to be resurrected just as we begin to relax a bit. Learning to live with high‒stress every day can be instructive.

 

Luckily, opportunities do present themselves daily. What are we able to live with while staying present and engaged without compromising who we are? Many of us did not know what it would look like if these boundaries were pushed. We have learned a lot about ourselves, which is truly a silver lining…a ray of light.

 

During the holiday season, we re-connect with relatives and friends not normally seen–a double-edged sword at times, as we all know. Also, many people are often quite busy the last few weeks of the year. As a result, the holidays are inherently stressful. This year, as last, promises again to be challenging. Still, it is different energetically. We are stronger this year and more resilient. To most, with the vaccine, we are empowered and potent. This is always a winning combination–the self-esteem trifecta–strength, empowerment, and potency.

 

HOW TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT

What can we do with all of this? There are plenty of options. If we are present and live in the heart, then whatever we decide will be the best decision. Reflection fortifies us. Because of where we have been, we see what might have been done differently. Contemplation allows us to recognize patterns in our psyche that might be negatively influencing our decision-making process. Furnished with this kind of knowledge, we enrich our creativity and learn not to repeat negative patterns.

 

Recent studies have discovered that the pandemic has triggered an extensive re-evaluation of work and life for some Americans. Countless people are deliberating changes in their careers and their communities. The Washington Post recently quoted an Austin man who was forced to change careers, “If you come out of the pandemic the same as you were, you’ve missed an opportunity to evolve and grow as a person.” The article added, “Nearly 1 in 3 U.S. workers under the age of 40 have thought about changing their occupation or field of work since the pandemic began.”

 

Life is an ongoing and dynamic process. We are in a continual state of transition. When our day-to-day routines progress along non-stop, we may not notice the subtle changes in our lives and in who we are becoming. An event like the pandemic is a great interrupteran opportunity to be more mindful of our lives’ processes–and what is important to us. Change is good, and sometimes painful. Those who have been through a painful divorce or serious health alarm can attest to this reality.

 

Another young woman interviewed in The Washington Post article stated, “The pandemic taught me that nothing is guaranteed now. Everything can change within months, if not weeks,” she observed. “Just being able to spend time by myself made me realize what path I did and did not want to go down.”

 

Contemplation and stillness were not a significant part of our lifestyle pre-pandemic. Now, these tools have become so much more accessible. We do not need to change anything. However, it is wonderful to know that if we choose to, there is the potential for many people to provide support and community…another silver lining.

CONNECTING THE DOTS

CONNECTING THE DOTS

Now that we are back in the swing of things, some of us are reengaging with others like never before. Others are taking it a bit slowly. Our Austin-based Resonance Repatterning expert, Mary Schneider, offers insight on moving forward with others.

WELCOME BACK

What an amazing night it was…I went to an actual party, yet I haven’t been out again quite yet. I am being gentle with myself. A therapist wisely counseled me to take it easy and not over-expose myself too quickly. Not due to the pandemic, mind you, but in order to not end up with a “hangover” from too much socializing too hastily. Many people have made the same decision.

 

What has happened in this post-Covid era is slowly becoming a trend. People spent an inordinate amount of time, often alone, in their homes for the past eighteen months. This we know. Many of us developed a curiosity about what society would look like after the pandemic. Welcome. Now we are beginning to get a taste of it. Of course, many people and their families lost loved ones in these last eighteen months. We send them all love, light, healing, and blessings. We wish you peace.

 

Growing re-connectedness. We have coined a new term here. When you make a new friend, there is a choice. A choice to retreat to old ways of being or maybe, try something new. Covid and its subsequent isolation have provided us with a tabula rasa if you will (the theory that individuals are born without built-in mental content; therefore, all knowledge comes from experience or perception). Interacting with selective amounts of people allows us to polish up our communication skills. We are also compelled to go deeper, as opposed to hanging out in what is familiar.

It may just be that we have no desire to do this going deeper-thing. And, being obliged to feel perhaps uncomfortable. There is a wonderful growth opportunity here, though–one of the silver linings of the pandemic. We are invited to try styles of relating to which we may be unaccustomed. Possibly we could be more open. Or, at the other end of the spectrum, we might be more quiet. Being in the same group of people for lengthy periods can magnify our mistakes. Yet, we see that despite our mistakes, we are still loved. We can heal them. I see increased self-acceptance leading to treating oneself more gently, and therefore, intimacy can improve.

 

ELECT TO CONNECT

Of course, with old friends, we can attribute our newfound relationship conduct to being isolated for so long. Over time as we move back out into society, the improved communication patterns we developed can positively affect all our relationships. We begin to reap the benefits of intimacy as a shared outcome. Intimacy (think of into-me-see) is a process where people know one another on a deep level. Many married couples have this, and best friends can, as well. It depends upon the basis of the relationship. The presence of true intimacy is a gift of divine proportion and is to be treasured. This intimacy requires a certain amount of vulnerability–authenticity coupled with the heart. The heart confers the capacity to express our feelings and state our needs.

 

Going back out into the world, we find our relationships are transforming. True intimacy allows us to talk about how we feel without remorse. It also allows us to express our needs with the expectation they will be met making us feel loved deeply. The deeper the intimacy, the greater the love. Intimacy and love increase exponentially. Self-love and self-acceptance are present, and we recognize we are beloved.

 

Ultimately, this agreement we made to engage in a quarantine lifestyle opens us to uncharted territory residing within us that we have always wanted to access. If we give ourselves this gift of self-love, we will have more to come back to when the pandemic is finally truly over. Covid-19 gave some of us a more authentic life.

 

Most importantly, we took the opportunity we were given and made the most of it. Lemons can always become lemonade. It turns the silver lining into pure gold, allowing us to see that we can love ourselves and love others as ourselves. We can see their mistakes, and we can let them go.

HOW TO HAVE A SUNNIER DISPOSITION

HOW TO HAVE A SUNNIER DISPOSITION

Hello, you warm, gorgeous summer. According to our intuitive self-help expert, Austin-based Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, Mary Schneider, the summer season is ripe for opportunity, change, and a continued recalibration of what’s important.

GOLDEN GLOW

Thankfully, it looks as though our summer might be different from last year’s with the revision of the mask mandate and pandemic protocol. Trying to imagine all the events and activities set in motion with this pronouncement truly astonishes the mind after the last year we all endured. What a lovely time of year to have all this transpire. Summer is the season of fun and relaxation, especially in the south. More importantly, summer’s most distinguishing characteristic is its power to heal, nourish and nurture. Of course, these are also all the attributes of the sun.

 

Had I lived with the Incas, Aztecs, or the Mayans, I would have been a committed sun worshipper like their cultures. With the advent of summer, people today join the ranks of celebrants answering the call of long-forgotten compulsion. Or, maybe not. There are continents of believers working long hours in stressful jobs to be able to get to the water to enjoy its restorative qualities. Beaches are covered in every color of the rainbow where not one more towel will fit. Today, we venerate the sun as much if not more than these three Indigenous Peoples combined.

 

Let’s face it. Healing properties are the sun’s stock and trade. This sounds rather masculine, yet it should be mentioned the sun is considered predominantly masculine. Breathing mountain air while drinking in the light of the sun allowed centuries of ailing patients to restore their health. In the U.S. alone, 127 million people live in coastal counties. Admittedly, the water is a big draw…and so is the sun.

 

THEN & NOW

Even ancient healing modalities recognized the curative properties of the sun. In Chinese Five Element acupuncture, the “stomach meridian” is associated with nurturance, nourishment, and caretaking (of others and the self). The color that heals this meridian is yellow, and one of its modalities is being in the sun. Stomach Meridian issues develop by the caretaking of others to the detriment of oneself, which refers to the maternal instinct when the mother’s needs are not fully met while she supports those around her.

 

In the Ayurvedic chakra system, the fire chakra is located in the solar plexus. Even the name of this chakra refers to the sun. It is masculine and relates to paternal energy and power, and not surprisingly, anger and abuse contribute to this chakra imbalance. A modality we frequently employ for an imbalanced fire chakra is to sit under a tree and let the light filter over your body. Keep your eyes open and allow the direct sun to enter your eyes and continue through your brain. Stay there for about five minutes to begin to feel nourished. The sun also supplies amounts of Vitamin D that we all need to stay healthy. 

The sun’s most significant contribution is as a purveyor of light, and this is why it deserves to be respected. In fact, all the faiths in the world speak and pray about the light. Christianity speaks of being the way and the light. The Hindus have Diwali, their Festival of Lights. Vesak, Buddha’s birthday, is one of Buddhism’s most important holidays. Festival of Lightsin Judaism is an eight-day Jewish holiday commemorating the rededication of the Temple of Jerusalem. These all flow to seeking enlightenment. And there is much, much more to know. So, what are you waiting for this summer? Enjoy the light responsibly and the many ways it can enhance your well-being.

ASCEND INTO WELLNESS

ASCEND INTO WELLNESS

With summer here, there’s an anticipation of what is ahead, according to our intuitive self-help expert, Austin-based Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, Mary Schneider, who explains the importance of anticipating and planning for the future.

A SUMMER PLACE

Summer is most definitely here, yet four days ago, I told an out-of-town friend how gloomy and grey it had been. I fully expected our infamous spate of winter weather to have killed all the local plant life, yet today verdant summer green is everywhere.

 

It is safe to say Mother Nature probably handles change better than the rest of us. And despite her constant changes, we are also still pretty resilient. As we move into the season most beloved by a large segment of the population, we are offered tremendous hope. Nature is a most important aspect of healing in Chinese 5 Element Acupuncture.

Hope is what has carried us through when we were hit this last year with the pandemic and severe weather. The most interesting aspect of hope is it’s the only virtue that shows up in bad times. Hope inspires us to stay focused and strong. It ushers in creativity, enabling us to find new solutions to the problems that confront us. Just like the summer green we see everywhere right now.

Hope sees us beyond to the promise of change, bringing  us to where we are today. This summer heralds much more than its typical pledge of potential growth. Gazing at the foliage and blooms on the trees, we are reminded of our imminent foray into society again. So, there is much transformation ahead.

Of course, we want to remember all of those who have passed and those who have been left behind. Our hearts go out to all of you experiencing grief, which is immense. The changes you encounter at the precipice of this summer are of another kind, like no other in recent memory. The growth potential is also of another nature.

When reflecting on nature, try to focus on change or transition and how we can best help this process along. In the Ayurvedic chakra tradition, change is associated with the Earth or Root chakra. Home, family, tribe, security, and mother are the main issues with this chakra. This past year, much of these influential aspects have been upended in one form or another. We all know that the usual outlets people engage in, such as sports and dining out, have been sidelined. All of this has created the feeling of continuous adaptation. This may be seizing upon the obvious with a sense of discovery, but it has also created layers of stress and a ton of grief.

COPING CAPABILITY

We have lots of coping mechanisms to deal with stress such as exercise, which improves our focus, while drinking alcohol numbs us, or taking drugs to help us sleep–just to name a few. This stress is hard on the body and does not do any better with the psyche. There is nothing wrong with these activities…but the stress still multiplies.

What would be something we all could do to beat the stress? Taking care of ourselves will help the most during these times and we now have an opportunity to learn more about this important lesson. Learning to take care of oneself is somewhat of an art. It is like taking dance lessons. At first, you are a little self-conscious, and then you start to feel how much fun it is.

It is the same with self-care. It may seem aa bit wonky in the beginning, but when you have that moment of realization about how important your well-being is, you wonder why you did not commit to this a long time ago.

A helpful way to start the process is to make a list of all the things you have wanted to do for a long time. Cull out what is reasonable for your lifestyle and put them in your calendar. It might be something as simple as giving yourself a facial. Or calling a loved one or perhaps, cooking yourself a lovely dinner. Do one a day and see what starts to happen. And, then for the pièce de résistance, do one for another person in your life who might appreciate the gesture. 

It is a powerful thing to take care of oneself. We as a culture are not oriented in this direction, and so much has changed. In the middle of this pandemic, we have had the time to learn this expression of self-love better than usual, so today’s a great day to anticipate the future.